He is you.

Your partner is your mirror.

Except for the way you perceive him, he doesn’t even exist for you.

He is who you see he is, and ultimately it’s just you again, thinking.

It’s just you, over and over and over and over,

and in this way you remain blind to yourself and feel justified and lost.

To think that your partner is anything but a mirror of you is painful.

You don’t see your partner; you just see what you believe about him.

So when you see him as flawed in any way, you can be sure that that’s where your own flaw is.

The flaws have to be yours, because you’re the one projecting them.

– Byron Katie

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