Have you written a worksheet on your body?
Then how about on your sensation?
I find it very useful to write a Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet on my sensation.
I facilitated a woman whose boyfriend just left her.
She wanted him to come back.
In her worksheet, she wrote “I need him to take care of my feelings.”
I asked her how she treats her sensations when she believes the thought.
“I push it away”, she answered.
“I run away from it. I push it down. I don’t want to feel it.”
Then I asked her if she wants to take time to feel the sensation.
Unwillingly, yet with some curiosity, she agreed, and sat with her sensation.
After 4-5 minutes, she took a big breath and said she was okay now.
She said all the things she was afraid didn’t happen.
Her sensation didn’t do anything to her.
I asked her.
“You need him to take care of your feelings. Is it true?”
She said no.
“I am able to take care of my feelings and sensation. I don’t need him to come back and do that. ”
If you feel scared to do this exercise by yourself,
I invite you to find someone you can trust to hold a space for you.
I promise you will be just fine.
Of course, you don’t need to trust me.
You can test it yourself and find out.
Sending you Love,
For more information about The Work, visit TheWork.com
You might want to read the Introduction of The Work of Byron Katie by Stephen Mitchell.